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The New Miracle Weight Loss Method, That I Don’t Like!


 

Okay, so you don’t have to resort to this to lose weight. I mean come on!!! What next? Let’s just chop our fingers off, so we can’t pick up any food or maybe we could just sew up our mouths altogether, for a while.

Sometimes, I think the world has gone crazy!!

The Quick Fix

Why is it that changing your eating habits and getting more exercise seems to becoming the less chosen option? Especially when any extrinsic method applied or caused by the intervention of a doctor is only going to have short-term effects at their very best?

 Admittedly these interventions are mostly a last resort choice and I am sure many who end up taking this road have tried traditional weight loss methods previously. At least I hope so.

Apart from the lack of effectiveness in the long-term (unless exercise and healthy eating become part of the patient’s overall lifestyle plan) the complications and side effects from these types of procedures are far more unpleasant and significant than is often publicized.

A Story

Recently I was privy to a conversation with another author who has penned her experiences with lap band surgery. One of her stories has stuck in my mind ever since.  It was graphic, a little disturbing and very unpleasant.

So I thought I’d share it. Yes, nice of me, I know.

May I suggest at this point, that if you happen to be eating as you read this, that you either stop reading or put the food away just for a minute. You’ll thank me later.

Anyhowwww…..basically my friend described the fact that following her surgery she still frequently craved packeted chips (or crisps as they are called in some parts of the world) specifically tomato flavoured ones.

One night coming home on the train, she could no longer control her urges and decided to purchase a packet, even though she knew that her new ‘stomach’, (the surgically shrunk one) didn’t really tolerate acidic or salty food anymore. At all.

Only trouble was her new surgically altered gastrointestinal system had not communicated this fact to her non surgically altered taste buds (I don’t think the tongue mutilation thing had been invented then) and so, she indulged.

Losing Her Dignity

This is where it gets messy. Very. Yes, you’ve guessed it. She vomited. And vomited. All over herself. Her clothes. Her handbag. The seat she was sitting on. She had no control. And being on a train, going home from work, there was no refuge in the form of a bathroom or toilet.

She just had to wipe it off herself with tissues, feeling mortified, ashamed and stripped of every vestige of dignity and self-respect.

Now I know this is an unpleasant little tale and I’m sorry if I’ve made you squeamish but somehow when I read about the tongue mutilation procedure and realised they were for real, I thought I had to write something here that would be a reality check for anyone who may have ever been tempted to do something similar.

Call it my little protest. Or something.

A Better Way

Anyhow, if you read here regularly or have in the past, then you will know that I advocate a method far more respectful of the human condition than any of the options I’ve talked about above. What I advocate is a method that transforms your heart and mind first and then your body and your behaviours. In my book, Reframe Weight Loss, I call it ‘The You Method’.

It is simpler, far more effective and a darn sight more positive, pleasant and joyful than attacking parts of your precious body and destroying them.

You are a magnificent creation. Believe that. Respect that. And you will have begun in a small but significant way the creation of the ‘new you’.

What are your thoughts on weight loss intervention methods, whether they be the proverbial ‘diet pill’ or something more drastic like I have just described? Have you had any experiences that you’d like to share, maybe to help prevent others from making a similar mistake? Or maybe you are pro weight loss surgery and similar techniques?

Why do you think people resort to these options? Have you ever been tempted?

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Achieving Weight Loss Through A Healthy Respect For Your Body


 

Life outside of the blogosphere has been a little busy for me lately, so my post here today will be kind of brief (at least I’ll try to keep it that way, however no matter how I try, I never seem to meet that goal of staying ‘brief’. What can I say, I love talking!).

Anyhow first up I just want to say thanks to the people who commented last week and congratulations to Talitha from pursuittoflagom.blogspot.com who won a free copy of Reframe Weight Loss. The book is soon to be shipped further into cyberspace and soon will be reaching a number of online retailers. So congratulations Talitha and safe travelling to my ebook!

Some Food For Thought

Apart from the above news, the other snippet I thought I’d share today is an extract from a book called The Power of Intention. I came across the particular paragraph by accident and immediately thought of sharing it here, due to it’s relevance and hopefully usefulness, to those of you on your weight loss journeys.

I have paraphrased it a little but basically here is the paragraph as taught by Wayne Dyer. It is taken from a section in his book on self respect, specifically on respecting your body.

Respecting Your Body

“Regardless of it’s size, shape, colour or any imagined infirmities, you have been provided with a perfect body to house your true self….

You don’t need to work at being healthy; health is something you already have if you don’t disturb it. You may have disturbed your body by overfeeding it, under exercising it, overstimulating it with toxins or drugs, that make it sick, fatigued, jumpy, anxious, bloated or an endless list of maladies.

However you can begin to live a life of self respect for your body anytime. You know what to do. You don’t need a new diet, a personal trainer or another workout manual. Go within, listen to your body and treat it with all the dignity and love that your self respect demands.”

I hope these few thoughts from Wayne Dyer give you some food for thought today. Take care of yourself and hope to see you back here in the blogosphere soon.

What are your thoughts on the idea of health being something you already have if you don’t disturb it? Does this resonate with you? Do you have any thoughts about the book, The Power of Intention, that you would like to share?

Communication, Weight Loss and The Food Marketing World (And How To Beat Them At Their Game)


 

 

Words and Communication – What Are We Really Saying?

The other night as I was cooking dinner, the familiar ‘you’ve just received a text’ sound echoed from the phone in my handbag. I ignored it (didn’t want to burn the chicken!) and later discovered that this particular message required some unexpected deciphering. Try as I might, I just didn’t (fully) understand what the person had said.

It wasn’t so much the symbols they had used. It was just that the overall message was not clear enough for me to know how to exactly how to respond. Unlike in a real conversation, where one person might say ‘So what do you think  or  feel about x, y or z ?’ and the other can respond appropriately, a text message often fails to include true emotion.

Many experts say that in this modern communication age, where we fail to include true emotion in much of what we communicate, we are damaging rather than the building foundations for good relationships. In the multitude of short ‘sound bites’ we send out, which do not include the face to face co-communicators of facial expression, body language or voice tone (as with txt, twitter, email, etc…) meaningful discourse, they say, is lost.

Of course we’re all getting good at fixing that problem with the inclusion of emoticons and other such symbols to convey our feelings. 🙂 Nothing wrong with that. 🙂 🙂

The Psychology of Words And Your Food Choices

Anyhow all this new awareness about words and communication has led me to notice the types of words used by marketers and manufacturers of certain food products. Recently, on one box of ice creams (single serves) I noticed all of the following words – heart, golden, heavenly, indulgent and perfect. All of these words described the moments you would feel or experience if you ate one of the above said ice creams.

 At one time in my life, I would have been fully swayed by such words. Many times after a busy day’s work, I was a hapless victim at the corner shop. Back then, I would always buy the snack, ice cream or confectionary item fully believing (at least at a subconscious level) that the food item called ‘Lift’ or ‘Heavenly Moment’ would actually produce the exact same effect in my life. Naive, I know.

These days however, being the food detective that I now am, I instead choose to look at the nutritional labels on items and understand the real facts. I know now that advertisers are playing a game with me.

How many of us would still be drawn to, for example, a plain box of ice-creams (no pictures, no attractive illustrations) with the words – regret, 400 calories, high sugar, high fat, little nutritional value?

No positive emotion conveyed there and quite possibly, no ice creams would be sold 😦

Debunking The Hype

Of course marketers know this and have become extremely adept at capturing our attention and manipulating our choices.  Whilst I admire their clever creativity, I know it’s all hype and rather than fall prey to their cause, I prefer, these days, to debunk their marketing hype, even as I read it. It’s kind of a habit now, but a good one and kind of fun.
I know in reality that the sugar marketeers can not improve my day or make me feel good, in any way shape or form. 

Only I can do that.

 I also know that there is no particular food which is better ‘for my busy lifestyle’ or ‘fun to eat’ or any of the other common food messages I frequently hear and read.

So how do you handle those ubiquitous ads for food? Do you find yourself persuaded by the words advertisers use and thus enticed to buy certain foods?  Or, do you ignore them and base your food choices on nutritional information rather than anything else on the box?

Also, what do you think about children being targeted with such advertising? What are our kids really learning about how to choose their foods?

I’d love to know what others think about this issue. What are your thoughts?