Have you ever started a sentence with ‘but society says…’ or ‘society makes me feel like I …’? If so, have you ever stopped to wonder exactly who is this character (called society); this player in our life stories, whom we sometimes direct criticism at or apportion blame to?
It occurred to me the other day, after reading a comment on another blog, that many of us may be constantly trying to ‘live up to’ an illusion of society, one we have self created, one full of expectation, demands and comparisons. One that may actually not even exist.
The particular comment I am thinking of came from someone who (although he was reading a post about self improvement and personal empowerment) was not a happy chappy. At all. He was, sadly, a little disillusioned, full of blame and anger and more than a little cynicism.
In his words though, he was trying to ‘get real’. The way I saw it was that the only reality he had created was one of self exclusion and isolation. Somehow he had managed to convince himself that he was not ‘good enough’, coming to this conclusion via various comparisons with who or what he called ‘society’.
It was a sad conclusion, to say the least. He had obviously decided that, rather than make any personal changes or take responsibility for his life situation, that it would be easier (and might I add, less effective in terms of bringing happiness and a resolution to his problems) to blame someone or something, in this case, ‘society’.
When we stop to think about the fact that society is largely made up of individuals we will never meet or know and will never have a relationship with, how strong can the argument that this faceless group is ruining our lives, be? How can we sit and blame a whole sector of humanity for everyday things that we ourselves can take responsiblilty for? That we ourselves can change?
I know for some this will continue to be an excuse for sitting on their thumbs, for not getting things done and for not finding the happiness and love that might otherwise await them.
But for others and I suspect and hope that you are one of them, we will all continue to try and be the change, we want to see in the world.
Maybe then, the disillusioned can trust us again. Maybe then, we, the faceless members of an impersonal group called ‘society’, can melt away the hurt, the anger and fear and dispel the frightful notion of a society who doesn’t care.
I don’t know about you, but I feel as if it is my duty to do so. Because I do care and I am part of society.
What are your thoughts about society ‘being to blame’ for things? Is this a legitimate argument in your life? Why do you think it is that so many do not trust ‘society’? Is humanity breeding distrust, rather than hope, a sense of belonging and worthiness? If so, how can we change that and start doing better?
Also, where do you get your sense of self worth from, if not from society?
Love to know what you think. Please feel free to continue this conversation via the comment box. I’m sure you all have some valuable thoughts to add and I would really love to hear them. 🙂
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